Ka! Sharing The Load with Ki!
Do you Share the Load with your Partner????
Was watching Ariel’s advert, last night, where the brand has asked if laundry is only a woman’s duty and asks men to do their part……………
One of the most pressing issues of all times is that of gender equality. While media portrays and society gives us hints that women have broken the glass ceiling, there seems to be a slightly nastier truth hidden behind it. The truth of the unequal distribution burden of domestic work. An attempt to highlight the fact that while women may be making great leaps in her professional life, in her own house she is probably doing just the same amount of work she did before.
“Share the load” is a call to action for people, men in particular, to share the burden of household chores with their beloved.This is something which I do not agree with!!!! The way the world has been changing, so does the inequality in the household load. Yes, the Indian male has been dropping vegetables in the kitchen, changing soiled diapers, going to the grocers and much more. The good news is that in most urban Indian homes the husband has voluntarily given up his insular position and no longer chooses to distance himself from the hurly- burly of the household.
Surely, the change did not come overnight. Sparks were provided by thankful people migrating to new city for jobs , the growth of more nuclear family and to add to it the high cost of living. Further, the fact that many present day marriages are not arranged affairs anymore, which in return is having more understanding relationship between Man and Wife. The wife is not keen to prove that she is equal to her husband.
Like the father in ad, blames himself for passing on his prejudice to the next generation, it is very easy to take the things that way but this generation gap has not only been the gap of decades but also an evolution of different emotional feelings in a couple. Hasn’t the scenario changed from their generation to ours? Haven’t we progressed in our thinking? Haven’t our priorities and lifestyles changed? Today, a couple considers sharing as the best way to show care and build stronger sentiments towards each other.
The present generation has their life moving at such a fast pace that the little time they get to spend with each other, they want to utilize it to their best and with this comes the sharing of load automatically! My husband, from whom I actually learned the tips and tricks of cooking or you can say cooking was only and only after marriage and till today I am learning and experimenting each day with food whenever he is in the Kitchen. He believes in “Sharing the Load”. He does so only to enjoy some bonding moments with ME and not with the intention to share my load but ultimately that’s what the result is! Doing this, he never feels that he is sharing my load because he never labelled his work as only “My Responsibility.” For me, he understanding the fact that I am loaded with work is itself sharing the load. It’s a gesture of love for your wife that speaks to her personally, “I love and value you.”
Unlike him, I have always seen my father-in-law laying a helping hand to my mom-in-law…..it might be cooking , cleaning vegetables or sharing the load of washing machine. I truly respect him for that. No wonder now I got from where, My Husband must have got this nature of “Sharing”. Because he has always seen his father doing so. Big Thank u to u Dad.
Also, unlike our parents , we who will be upcoming parents of this new generation are also very particular of the example we are setting for our kids. Thus, we must take every care to give them an environment that is friendly, full of love and sharing . This obviously cannot happen with a frustrating female offloaded with work. Today, men have come forward to share the household load acknowledging the fact that women are sharing their loads too.
In today’s scenario, with both of the partners working and the presence of nuclear families, many of us have become so dependent that if our cook doesn’t turn up, we opt for any of the take away, dine out or home delivery options. Aren’t our husbands sharing our load by happily accepting this and keeping our comfort at priority, otherwise we would have to get into the kitchen and prepare a meal even after being exhausted day at office.
For me sharing the load has an altogether different meaning. It’s not the work that a husband does that counts more but his attitude towards that work that matters to a wife more. Instead of who is doing, who should do or why should I do, partners should practice questions like, what should be done, how it will be done which will itself bring in the reward.
I am blessed to have someone who truly #SharetheLoad 🙂 with me and would suggest all those who don’t, to start doing it now! After all, It’s never too late to make things right!!!